How can I help my friend or relative who has been abused?

Items at this blog

Converting statements into questions — a skill for bystanders who want to help victims of abuse

Helping an Abuse Victim without being Duped by the Abuser

How to Support an Abuse Victim

I’m Nobody Special; What Can I Do To Help Lazarus? — by Harriet Cook.  Harriet has expanded this article into a book: What can I do to help Lararus? : Reaching Out with Knowledge and Compassion to Survivors of Domestic Abuse in our Congregations (What can I do to help Lararus? : Reaching Out with Knowledge and Compassion to Survivors of Domestic Abuse in our Congregations (Affliate link))

Don Hennessy Digest — Hennessy has great insight into the mind of men who abuse their female intimate partners. He explains how society has been hoodwinked by men who abuse their female intimate partners.

Resources for Family and Friends — one of our Resources pages.

Resources for Supporters of Victims of Domestic Abuse — another of our Resources pages.

Items outside this blog

Respecting & Listening to Victims of Violence:  A handbook for those who are supporting women who have been abused by an intimate partner — by Calgary Emergency Shelter. HIGHLY RECOMMENDED.

Proxy Stalking — Proxy stalking happens when a person stalking someone relies on information from a third party (such as the victim’s friend or family member) to stay informed of a victim’s location and activities. Many people unwittingly enable proxy stalking.

Book Suggestions

Books for Supporters of Survivors — one of our Resources pages.

Helping Her Get Free:  A Guide for Families & Friends of Abused Women [Affiliate link] — by Susan Brewster. This book was originally published as To be an Anchor in the Storm.

Not Under Bondage: Biblical Divorce for Abuse, Adultery and Desertion [Affiliate link] — by Barbara Roberts

If you have questions about the permissibility of divorce this book explains the Scriptural dilemmas of abuse victims in regard to separation and divorce, carefully examines the Scriptures and scholarly research, and shows how the Bible sets victims of abuse free from bondage and guilt. It will help victims throw off the unbiblical traditions they have been in bondage to and get free from their abusers. Read reviews at of this book at Barbara’s website by theologians, by pastoral carers, and by others  Here is an additional review of this book by Ps. Dave Orrison.

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