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Celebrate Recovery – a commendation by a survivor of domestic abuse

One of our readers, Lynette D, has very kindly sent us this piece about Celebrate Recovery.

Celebrate Recovery is a group similar the AA and other who use the twelve steps for recovery. We also use eight biblical principles that correspond. We deal with all sorts of issues, such as codependency, drugs and alcohol, anger, food addiction, even spousal abuse. We call them our hurts, habits and hang ups. We learn that we are responsible for ourselves, our choices, and our recovery. We learn about forgiveness, that God can heal our issues, and about boundaries. We believe in consequence for our actions and it is good to have consequences for the actions of others. We learn that it is our job to keep our side of the street clean, and whatever someone chooses to do with that is up to them. For example, I had to forgive people for some hurts they caused. I did forgive them, but what they chose to do with it is on them, not me. So in the case of an abusive spouse, we encourage boundaries and safety, and consequences for the abuser. We don’t place blame on the victim.

Just for info, if people attend a CR and these things are not encouraged, it is not truly a CR program.

9 Comments

  1. Martin

    We use Celebrate Recovery in jail ministry, at the work-release center, and at the Mission. I am glad Lynette D brought it up – it is a praiseworthy program.

    • Id like to learn more about your mission and CR PRISON MINISTRY

      • Martin

        You can find more information regarding our ministry, including my contact information, at missionofhopecr.org

  2. Lynette D

    Just for the record, I have not been a victim of abuse, however, I know MANY who have, including my mom. But I have seen the damage abuse does to some friends, and how the church has failed to address it correctly. I apologize for any misunderstanding.

    • Martin

      Lynette D,

      I am glad you shared this. I have seen many people gain victory over addiction using this program. I have also seen many abusers go through this program and gain victory over anger and control issues.

      Did you read the book? Participate in group? Or both?

      • Lynette D

        My main area of recovery is alcoholism, 12 yrs sober by God’s grace. I have participated in both, going through the step books and reading Life’s Healing Choices. I am a small group leader for women.

      • Martin

        Praise God! I think the groups are awesome!

  3. Anonymous

    I bought the book when I was searching for answers. I even recommended it to my counselor. Now looking back, I realize that the book gave me hope that the marriage could change because there were many testimonies in the book, and also I believed from reading the book that I was part of the problem. I thought that I had to take responsibility for co-dependency, but in fact, I have discovered I am not co-dependent. All the symptoms were symptoms of being abused, e.g. not being able to speak up.

    I’ll have to dig it up and re-read it from a perspective of where I am now. I think different approaches suit different people at different times of their lives. Therapy best suited to an abusive person looks very different to what would be effective for the victim. A preacher or author who gives ONE solution or approach may be doing an injustice.

    • Lynette D

      I agree with you. Both people in the marriage need to be on the same page. We do not frown upon outside help either, there are many in our group who get outside counseling also.

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