A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Why is Forgiveness Even Possible?

UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let alone asked for their forgiveness.


[January 9, 2023: There have been some changes made to this post. For more information, read the Editors’ notes at the bottom of the post. Editors.]

(Mark 2:4-11  ESV)  And when they could not get near him because of the crowd, they removed the roof above him, and when they had made an opening, they let down the bed on which the paralytic lay. And when Jesus saw their faith, he said to the paralytic, “Son, your sins are forgiven.” Now some of the scribes were sitting there, questioning in their hearts, “Why does this man speak like that? He is blaspheming! Who can forgive sins but God alone?” And immediately Jesus, perceiving in his spirit that they thus questioned within themselves, said to them, “Why do you question these things in your hearts? Which is easier, to say to the paralytic, ‘Your sins are forgiven,’ or to say, ‘Rise, take up your bed and walk’? But that you may know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins” — he said to the paralytic — “I say to you, rise, pick up your bed, and go home.”

In my ongoing discussion of forgiveness, I am challenging much of the contemporary thinking among Christians regarding this important subject. I trust that all of you realize (and I think that you do) that when I maintain that because God does not forgive His enemies (they must bow and humbly repent of sin and confess Christ as Lord and Savior, thus laying down arms against God), I do not mean that we are to remain hateful and vengeful toward those who sin against us and who, in fact, are our enemies. No. We are to reflect God’s own character in dealing with them. He does good to them, and so must we. He tells us to pray for them. We are not to seek personal vengeance, but to leave that to God. But what I mean is that in all of this, we do not declare that they are no longer our enemy, when in fact, they are. They continue the warfare. And I address this because so many victims of abuse are being told that forgiveness means that they must no longer regard their abuser as their enemy, which is simply a denial of reality.

Alright then, what of the Scripture quoted above? Notice that Jesus did not admonish the scribes or correct them when they said, “Who can forgive sins but God alone?” In fact, the entire premise of this account of the healing of the lame man rests upon that statement. Jesus is demonstrating here for all to see that He is God! Because He can speak and this man can walk, therefore He demonstrates that He is God and therefore possesses authority to declare sins forgiven.

Now, think about this. Do you have authority to forgive sin? I mean, do you possess that authority and ability within your own self, simply because you are you? No. Any authority given to any human being to forgive sin is really authority that resides in Christ alone. When we pronounce a person’s sins forgiven, it is only because we do so by the authority of the Word of God. The sinner is not forgiven because of my words, but because of Christ. This is why there is forgiveness only in Christ and nowhere else. Ultimately, if a person will not have Christ, then their sins remain unforgiven. Only Christ can forgive sin, and He can do so only because of His work of redemption for us.

This is why, therefore, there was / is no forgiveness of sin under the Old Testament Law in and of itself. By “in and of itself” I mean, without Christ. Any forgiveness granted in the Old Testament era was, even then, based upon a looking forward to Christ, to whom the Old Testament pointed. Consider this passage —

(Galatians 3:10-14  ESV)  For all who rely on works of the law are under a curse; for it is written, “Cursed be everyone who does not abide by all things written in the Book of the Law, and do them.”  Now it is evident that no one is justified before God by the law, for “The righteous shall live by faith.” But the law is not of faith, rather “The one who does them shall live by them.” Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us — for it is written, “Cursed is everyone who is hanged on a tree” — so that in Christ Jesus the blessing of Abraham might come to the Gentiles, so that we might receive the promised Spirit through faith.

Only God can forgive sin. And that is only because of Christ. The Law, in and of itself, can only bring condemnation. It is a grinding, unrelenting, yes — unmerciful — outworking of the holiness and righteousness of God Himself who cannot bear to look upon sin. The Law only brings about the curse. Not because the Law is somehow evil (it is holy and righteous and good, as Paul says). But it is because of me, because of my sin, that the Law will always and only condemn me.

Where there is no repentance, where there is no bowing of the knee to Christ, the Law stands against that rebel and condemns him. There is no forgiveness for such a person while he remains the enemy of God. Only God can forgive sin, and that only because of Christ. No matter how many human beings say to such a rebel “I forgive you,” that rebel remains unforgiven. His crimes still stand against him. So, while we might do such an enemy good, and while we do not seek personal vengeance against him, nevertheless heaven’s indictment still pronounces him cursed, and none of us can change that fact. Only God can forgive him, and that forgiveness is only because of and in Christ.

Therefore, as we deal with our enemies, we must be consistent with God’s way of dealing with His enemies (hopefully our enemies are God’s enemies and not because we have done them injustice!). We must not, and indeed we cannot, pronounce the debt of their unrepented sin forgiven. We cannot even, in this sense, forgive someone when they do repent! We only acknowledge that God forgives humbled, repentant, believing people. We do no good to a rebel to pronounce him a non-enemy when in fact he is still an enemy among us wearing a suicide vest of explosives to kill us. The elephant of his sin is still in the room and no amount of pretending otherwise can change that fact. What I fear is happening so often in the church today is that with all of our talk of love and mercy and forgiveness, we are doing nothing more than choosing to ignore the elephant. That pachyderm is going to stay right there unless and until the enemy of God lays down his arms, bows his knee to Christ, and repents.

[January 9, 2023: Editors’ notes:

—For some comments made prior to January 9, 2023 that quoted from the post, the text in the comment that was quoted from the post might no longer be an exact match.
—For some comments made prior to January 9, 2023 that quoted from the post, the text in the comment that was quoted from the post might no longer be found in the post.
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  1. Thankful for God's Grace

    It seems to me that the Christian community is lumping forgiveness, repentance, and reconciliation all in the same basket. e.g. I have forgiven my abuser though he is not repentant (which will show itself over time and through much effort on his part). However I am not reconciled to him. He is still my “enemy”. I will do him no harm. I will not act out vindictively and I will hold him at arms length (I’ve left the home due to the detrimental and intolerable behavior).

    There are consequences to sin and sometimes that means severing the relationship. I was given the example of Moses: He struck the rock and was not allowed to enter into the promised land. Does this mean God never forgave him? Does this mean Moses never repented. No. However, this was his life long consequence. (I believe this would be partial reconciliation, the relationship did not nor would not return to its previous state). David and Bathsheba are another example.

    I forgive him because I was forgiven (Lord’s Prayer). I hold no animosity towards him and only hope for him that the Lord will reveal Himself to him and he will come to repentance. I am not obligated to be reconciled to him. I will protect myself and my children from harm. I can do this and forgive him too by God’s Grace.

    [Paragraph breaks added to enhance readability. Editors.]

    • Jeff Crippen

      Yes, exactly. I realize that my discussion of forgiveness is defining forgiveness rather narrowly — I hope biblically — but in the end I really just want all of us to understand exactly the points that you make here. This business of lumping forgiveness, repentance, and reconciliation all together as if they can never be separate and so that if we don’t reconcile then we are guilty of unforgiveness is doing a huge amount of damage and it is widespread. These mis-doctrines hold together very nicely in superficial matters, or so it seems, but when one is confronted with abuse and its mentality and tactics and consequences, this model breaks down and if it is followed, great damage is done. The fact is that as long as your abuser remains unrepentant, he is not forgiven by the Lord and really your wise handling of him now affirms that unforgiveness and guilt. You aren’t hateful toward him and you aren’t seeking vengeance, but you acknowledge that he is still guilty and unrepentant and that is the path we have to follow in these cases. Good job!

  2. UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let alone asked for their forgiveness.


    Jeff, I think the kind of forgiveness you are talking about in this post is what Pastor Bob Kerrey calls “judicial forgiveness” — God is the judge, only He can forgive sins and take away the guilt penalty by bearing it on the Cross in His only begotten Son.

    As well as judicial forgiveness, Kerrey sets forth two other kinds of forgiveness: psychological forgiveness, and relational forgiveness. These three kinds of forgiveness are quite different from each other. The confusion about forgiveness comes about because Christians conflate and confuse three very different things: judicial, psychological and relational forgiveness. Readers can find a pdf of Kerrey’s teaching here [Internet Archive link].

    • Jeff Crippen

      Yes, thanks, Barbara. I read that article — excellent. Very helpful.

  3. Anonymous

    Dear Mr. Abuser,

    In case no one has informed you, spiritual forgiveness is a GIFT from God based on certain criteria that an individual must meet, and not something that is owed to you or anyone else — we just want to ensure that you understand this.

    Thank you for your time.


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