A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

The Church’s Injustice to Abuse Victims Hampers Our Opposition to Abortion

UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let alone asked for their forgiveness.

I can’t run.  I don’t like to run.  Unless there’s a reason – like running back to get the net when someone hooks a big salmon at the river.  I don’t even like to walk and hike.  What’s the point, I ask – unless there is a lake or stream full of fish at the other end?  I like that old cowboy in the saloon who laughed in disbelief when Marty McFly (Back to the Future) said that his special shoes were for running and that in the future, people run for fun!  “Yeah, right….”).

Anyway, I can still hear my old coaches yelling – “Get the lead out!  Pick it up!”  I never figured out how to do that.

Our Coach today, the Lord Jesus Christ, is shouting at His Church – “Get the LOG out!”  But we aren’t hearing Him.  His voice has grown faint because of the constant drone of our man-made doctrines and traditions.  We are so entrenched in these traditions that have been handed down to us now for decades, that we have missed the spirit of God’s Word, and the heart of God Himself.  Mercy, not sacrifice.  And nowhere is this disastrous error more evident than in our unjust, cruel treatment of the victims of abuse who come to us for help.  We tell them – “Now, you need to go back home and do a better job of submitting to that man.  No, God does not permit you to divorce for abuse.  He wants you right where you are.  No divorce.  Marriage is forever.”  The log of legalism in our eye keeps us blind to the obvious fact that this thing she is in is not marriage and never has been.  It precludes us from seeing that while God sanctified the Holy Place and the table of showbread for the priests, He let David go in and take that bread when he and his men were being abused and pursued by Saul –

Matthew 12:1-7, “At that time Jesus went through the grainfields on the Sabbath. His disciples were hungry, and they began to pluck heads of grain and to eat. (2) But when the Pharisees saw it, they said to him, “Look, your disciples are doing what is not lawful to do on the Sabbath.” (3) He said to them, “Have you not read what David did when he was hungry, and those who were with him: (4) how he entered the house of God and ate the bread of the Presence, which it was not lawful for him to eat nor for those who were with him, but only for the priests? (5) Or have you not read in the Law how on the Sabbath the priests in the temple profane the Sabbath and are guiltless? (6) I tell you, something greater than the temple is here. (7) And if you had known what this means, ‘I desire mercy, and not sacrifice,’ you would not have condemned the guiltless.”

What has all of this got to do with abortion?  Just this – on the one hand we, the Christian church, are shouting aloud that we are for marriage and the family, and life.  We decry abortion as evil – as murder.  And so it is.  And yet, at the same time – behind the scenes in our churches, in our pastoral and counseling offices, we are sentencing abuse victims to spiritual, emotional, or even physical death at the hands of their abusers.  All in the name of Scripture – yet in a spirit that is not of Jesus.  AND PRO-CHOICE PEOPLE KNOW FULL WELL WE ARE DOING THIS.  They know, because they see it in the stories of Christian women who come to the women’s resource centers, having been refused help by their churches.  How in the world do we think that they are ever going to hear us as we march and protest against abortion?  All they can see or hear is “hypocrites”!  And isn’t that also what Jesus sees in us?

How can anyone claim to be pro-life, pro-marriage, pro-family – and yet continue to believe and teach and enforce the things that we are oppressing the victims of abuse with?

Get the log out!  That is our Master’s cry.  It is long, long past time for us to hear Him.

6 Comments

  1. J. Ann

    Is it any wonder that the media portrays Christians as either foolish or evil?

    • Jeff Crippen

      Right. You know, we usually chalk that all up to the evil, worldly, Christ-hating media. And there surely is some element of that. The world hates Christ and His people. However, Peter tells us that while it is a credit if we suffer as Christians (1 Peter 4:14-16), there is no credit for suffering for being a fool or a sinner. Most any unsaved person who gets wind of the fact that conservative, Bible-believing Christians are prohibiting divorce for abuse and are enabling abusers and not coming to the aid of abuse victims right in our own pews, then hello? What are they going to think of Christ? If we are narrow, cruel, haters of women, then why shouldn’t they think the very same thing about us when we speak to other sins such as homosexuality or abortion?

  2. J. Ann

    Well said.

  3. Anonymous

    I am the product of a church that enforced no birth control and of course, no abortions.

    There was no love in my house because the people who lived there were incapable of loving others. I was brain-washed to believe that my sole purpose in life was to grow up, get married and have children. Anything other than this was considered selfish and self-serving. Growing up without love but being TOLD that I was loved is one of the worst soul-rapes a human can endure. What I needed when I became an adult was time to heal NOT to get married and have children. But really, what I needed was a church that did not encourage people who were incapable of loving others to have children. (That the picture painted of a Godly husband who loved his wife as Christ loved the church didn’t apply to them and thus they deserved no reverence or deferment from their wife and that God actually rejected them. Can you imagine if someone told the psychopaths who masquerade as Christians this?!) Or at least a church that forewarned and explained to those of us who COULD love others, that we needed to be aware that some people were incapable of this which meant that these people couldn’t be of God because loving others is THE hallmark of God and those who belong to Him, and that we weren’t to be joined with them in any type of intimate relationship.

    It sucks that we have a “need” for abortion in society. It sucks that we aren’t told the truth about psychopaths, demons, evil and how it lurks and hides. It sucks that we aren’t all born with at least one person who can love us in human form and that many of us only end up being loved by God himself. It sucks that people TELL us that all life is precious yet as soon as the fetus becomes an infant, all bets are off and it’s: “Good luck kid, cuz you’re gonna need it!” or “We “loved” you enough to force you into this world, now you “owe” us!”. or “You should be GRATEFUL that we wouldn’t condone birth control because otherwise you wouldn’t be here for us to abuse!”

    I never feel LOVE coming from these zealots who march on the anti-abortion clinics or who insist on women having unlimited numbers of children and insist that women submit to their husbands in all things and at all costs. There is no LOVE anywhere near these types of people.Yet this should be the “draw”–what draws us to desire a relationship with the Lord. The LOVE we feel that is put into practice by those claiming to be His.

    So in the end I’m grateful that God uses everything to work our for those who love him. And that he uses others to help us, often those who are no where near the church. For those who belong to him, we will gain wisdom through every experience (Ecclesiastes 2:3) so nothing is wasted and actually, we will be blessed by Him.

    • Jeff Crippen

      I hear you Anon. And lest anyone misunderstand you, I understand that you are not for abortion in what you say here. What you are “for” is genuine Christianity as evidenced by the love of Christ exercised from the heart toward one another. I know exactly what you mean when you say that you don’t feel the love of Christ in so many of these various kinds of “zealots.” I have been hammered more than once by such professing “Christians” and it feels more like a gunfight.

      • Anonymous

        Thank you Jeff–you are correct in how you’ve explained what I’d written and what I’d meant. Thank you again.

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