Some Real Words of Wisdom – by “Survivor”
This article is short, but incredibly important. I wanted to put it up where everyone can see it. One of our readers, “Survivor” put this comment on. Read carefully and learn —
“Lundy Bancroft exposes male abusers who claim they are victims by pointing out that those who are only interested in denigrating their ex’s and women in general are not victims. Victims understand how other victims feel. I think the same would apply to female abusers who pose as victims – if all they do is blame then that is a red flag.
The trouble is when abusers get counselled in church they get more covert because they know that they shouldn’t be blaming. So my ex’s speech often starts with a lot flattery and spiritual talk, then comes the blame, then all the talk about changing and taking responsibility. It’s hidden but it’s sharp and aggressive.”
***IMPORTANT NOTE: While we endorse Lundy’s writings about the dynamics of domestic abuse, we do not recommend anyone attend the ‘healing retreats’ Lundy Bancroft offers or become involved in his ‘Peak Living Network.’ See our post, ACFJ Does Not Recommend Lundy Bancroft’s Retreats or His New Peak Living Network for more about our concerns.