A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Hadassah’s Legacy – Truth, Courage, Compassion, Justice & Intimate Partner Abuse

[Updated 08/26/20]

While the website upon which this ACFJ blog post was based was active as of 08/26/20, the Hadassah’s Legacy website owner informed ACFJ the website will, at some point, be taken offline. With the exception of the links to the home page of the Hadassah’s Legacy website, the links in this ACFJ blog post have been updated to reflect where the original Hadassah’s Legacy links were saved to the internet web archive.

Caveat: The text contained within in block-quotes in this post does not match the internet web archive link, as it appears the original About page on the Hadassah’s Legacy website was changed some time after this ACFJ blog post was published.

[End update]

Hadassah’s Legacy [Internet Archive link] seeks to follow the example of Queen Esther in speaking the truth with courage and compassion, to forward justice for the abused. It is a blog written by someone who regularly comments at A Cry For Justice. The lady who writes this blog says:

Hadassah’s Legacy is an avenue to add my voice to those voices already raised against the injustice of intimate partner abuse*, and systemic spiritual abuse through legalistic adherence to some traditions of Christendom in regards to marriage, divorce and remarriage, at the expense of a humble appreciation of the character of God, and the truths and values contained throughout the Bible as a whole, or as a friend said to me, ‘at the expense of human dignity’.

Like Hadassah, also know as Queen Esther in the Old Testament of the Bible, I want to heed her uncle, Mordecai’s caution to her in Esther chapter 4, verses 12-14.

When Esther’s words were reported to Mordecai, he sent back this answer: “Do not think that because you are in the king’s house you alone of all the Jews will escape. For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?” (Esther 4:12-14)

Mordecai cautions Hadassah against remaining silent when her people are about to be annihilated, and encourages her to see her circumstances as an opportunity to seek justice in her times. Likewise, I consider my circumstances an opportunity to speak up, not remain silent, along with the many others who are raising awareness of intimate partner abuse in our current times.

The woman who writes Hadassah’s Legacy uses a different name when she comments at ACFJ. If you are a regular reader of ACFJ you will probably have read some of her comments.

I have added Hadassah’s Legacy [Internet Archive link] to the ACFJ blog roll.  [Update: Since the Hadassah’s Legacy website will be going offline, Hadassah’s Legacy was removed from the ACFJ blogroll.]

I highly recommend her post Whether Diagnosed or Not which discusses Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Intimate Partner Abuse.


  1. Finding Answers

    When Esther’s words were reported to Mordecai, he sent back this answer: “Do not think that because you are in the king’s house you alone of all the Jews will escape.For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?” (Esther 4:12-14)

    As I commented on the post referencing Asperger’s and domestic abuse, I am neither ASD nor NT, though I do have some Asperger-like traits.

    These Asperger-like traits have led to abusive relationships, though until I read the ACFJ post, I never realized such was the problem.

    With time, I can learn appropriate responses.

    When it comes to relating to people, my skill-set is a mixture of tools. I have a sense-feel capacity, due solely to God’s gift of healing. I am absolutely obedient to the Holy Spirit, no matter the cost to me personally.

    I am puzzled in recent days, however, by leadings by the Holy Spirit – they will require healing at a level I have not yet attained, nor ever thought possible. I will still face limitations. I will still face my Asperger-like traits. I am OK with that, really I am.

    I used to think my inability to feel the way an NT person does was due to these Asperger-like traits. Recently, I have been led by the Holy Spirit to understand something completely different. Extreme sexual abuse, starting from the day I was born, altered the way my heart and mind interconnected, especially with respect to my body.

    The Holy Spirit has led me through this entire healing process – there is no other Counsellor who has the capacity for this level of healing.

    I still have difficulty believing my end goal of feeling – rather than sense-feeling – will ever be attained. If it DOES happen though, I will have new things to learn.

    And I’m OK with that, too. Really, I am.

    As long as the Holy Spirit leads me, I will follow, I follow no one else – God, Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit – my all in One.

    • Finding Answers

      Adding on to my earlier comment….sometimes I am REALLY slow on the uptake.

      The Holy Spirit led me to read some testimonies, specifically those of people in some forms of ministry, not necessarily church.

      When I was still “married”, I had a small healing ministry. I longed to be part of God’s greater plan, but somehow understood my then-“husband” would hold me back – he was an abuser, and wanted all attention on him, not God.

      In later years, I ran into a similar circumstance, an abuser of greater magnitude, a ‘c’hristian blasphemer, if wording it like that make sense.

      I am now called – again – to some form of healing ministry, this time, more than one. I cannot even comprehend the healing my God has to do in me, but then, I am not God. And – quite frankly – a bit slower on the uptake on some things than many. 🙂

      I think if I had known this any sooner, I would have been nowhere near prepared.

      Now, at least, I understand I have always kept my eyes on Christ. I didn’t understand – as with everything else in my life – I have followed a convoluted path.

    • Extreme sexual abuse, starting from the day you were born, would alter the way your heart and mind interconnected, especially with respect to your body. I cannot imagine how much was altered…it is way way beyond my experience. But I do know you are following the One who can heal you.

  2. Reaching Out

    This post was updated 08/26/20. Please refer to the update information at the top of the post for further information.

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