Unholy Charade [Affiliate link] is the game most all of us here in the ACFJ community are all too familiar with, the evil game the abuser plays as he wears the wool of a sheep. Our newest book, written by Jeff Crippen with Rebecca Davis, is called Unholy Charade: Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church [Affiliate link] It is published through our own publishing arm, Justice Keepers Publishing, and is now available for purchase at Amazon.
I (JeffC) want to thank all of you for your part in producing this new tool to expose evil in the church and help set the oppressed free. Many of you wrote me accounts of what your abusers did to you and we quoted some of your accounts in the book. And thank you to the entire ACFJ team (Barbara and all the rest of the crew) for their (years now) service to Christ in this ministry. Rebecca Davis proved herself to be not only a top notch editor, but a genuine Christian with a burning desire to help abuse victims.
Thank you also to the saints at Christ Reformation Church in Tillamook who have stood by us in the battle for over two decades now as the Lord worked to train us and put this ministry together. Many “jumped ship” but those who have remained have shown themselves loyal to the King.
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UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let alone asked for their forgiveness.
A Cry For Justice 
Thank you for your earnest devotion and hard work in unmasking the predators that claim Christ, but are “wolves in wool”. Too many of us have been re-wounded and further abused by “c”hurches that refuse to deal with or recognize this evil within its walls. Your faithfulness to Christ and His true Gospel have proved to be a blessing and healing for all of us, although that same faithfulness did not come without a price to you and those who stood with you. We owe thanks to our great God, for raising someone up to stand in the gap and listen to the victims of this heinous evil we know as domestic abuse.
I also want to thank the saints of Christ Reformation Church, for their devotion in standing behind you, Ps. Jeff, and all of us, in prayer and support, as we endure what is often the nightmare of coming away to find our freedom. This journey is long, hard and not without complications and setbacks along the way. Most of us have been left in financial ruin and difficulty and also had our faith assaulted in the same ways the saints of old had theirs assaulted, by people who should be standing for righteousness, not unrighteousness. If not for the support of a consistent Church and those here at this blog, I may not have been able to come away to my freedom in Christ and be on my journey toward healing.
So thank you. God bless you and may God bring this book to become a national best seller, as it should be. May every pastor in every true Church read the same and be changed to rid their pews of evil by acknowledging abuse is evil and is the devil’s work. May all who read it cleave to God’s truths and be changed for His glory and honor.
Ordered 3. I for me 1 for my church and a spare to lend.
Yay! Thank you for letting us know. (Perfect cover. I hate looking at it because it really is so true, but it’s perfect.)
I also ordered this today. I will review on Amazon when I finish reading it. Thank you for your devoted ministry. I pray your new book helps many.
I just ordered mine – can’t wait to read it – I have read and shared ACFJ with so many people. Thanks so much for this new book!!
Thank you Jeff and the Cry for Justice team.
I ordered my copy of your new book last night, and looking foward to reading it.
Because of your faithfulness in exposing this great evil that hides in homes under the framework of marriage, I have been able to extract myself finally from the decades of abuse with Gods help.
May God bless you and your ministry of helping others to see the truth as they seek their freedom away from those that practice evil.
Got it ordered and looking forward to reading it! Thanks ACFJ for all you do to help targets of abuse and to expose the truth! This site- and you and Barbara personally- have been instrumental to my healing.
Just ordered mine! THANK YOU for writing this book.
Just got mine and already quoting parts of it to my abusive husband. He tells me I always find books that say what I want to hear!
Thank you for another excellent book.
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wow I could never do that
I used to buy Christian marriage books to give him. Doubt he read them. I found one once and I wish I could remember who wrote it but the pastor who wrote it basically told the husband if you have marriage problems (that was back when I thought we just had “problems”) the husband is to blame because a woman needs to be treated a certain way (all positive behaviors I noted) to feel loved otherwise she can’t be the loving wife you want. Of course, I know now that’s not a book helpful for abusive situations but at the time I thought husband didn’t’ understand how to treat a woman / wife and just needed some help. He claimed to be Christian so I thought that was a plus for the book. Years later he told me I was disrespectful for even giving him marriage advice books. (I should add in all the years we’ve been married he hasn’t read one book. He doesn’t need them I guess because he’s just so much smarter than anyone else. He told me before we married that he read the Bible everyday. Haven’t seen that yet.)
I once told him he was selfish and self-centered (long before I understood the abuse) Yep, he holds that against me and goes out of his way to use any action by me as proof that I’m selfish and self-centered. Even things like taking a nap when I haven’t been sleeping well. Because you know I should be doing something for him.
So I can’t even imagine reading to him about abuse. In fact, I know if I did that I’d simply be giving him ammunition to use on me.
But I do have the fantasy of someday telling him he is a narcissist and an abuser when I’m safe from him.
Annie,
At times I still want to tell him that he’s not helping our child or that he’s the one not helping her (in education, desires for her future, etc.) or that he’s abusing her (as he did me), but I realize that nothing I say will bring about a positive result. Quite the opposite. Everything I tell him is used against me. If I say he’s a narcissist, he’ll use that word in a future conversation applying it to me. Same with the word “abuse.”
I think the desire to say these things to him stems from this desire I have deep down that he will be reasonable at some point, which of course, never happened and won’t. Unless the Lord gives him a new heart (but I’m not holding my breath), there is no reasoning with him. I still have to catch myself before writing or speaking with him because usually there’s just no point. Now I only write (email) things to him if I want them “for the record,” but not to expect any reasoned reply. (Thankfully, the Lord has been gracious to my child, in that when I tell her that only dad can change some things in her situation, she corrects me, stating, “No, mom. Only One can change my situation, and that’s God.”)
My book is scheduled to arrive today. I. can’t. wait! I can’t wait! I can’t wait! I savor every word. I read Jeff’s first book on Kindle while in church during sermons. I wonder if the pastor ever saw me smiling and nodding in the pews, because so often I would be thinking, “YES!” to what I was reading. The pastor was enough of a controlling type he probably thought I was nodding to his sermons.
I look forward to getting this book, reading it, and highlighting all through it just like I did your last book! 🙂
I am sure, It will be a great resource to use when working with any other ladies that the Lord sends my way!
Love the cover!
Ordering mine this week!!!