Unholy Charade – A new book being written by Jeff Crippen with Rebecca Davis (and we need Your help)
I (JeffC) am beginning to write a new book in collaboration with Rebecca Davis, an author and book editor of many years experience. Rebecca recently helped our friend Dale Ingraham with his book, Tear Down This Wall of Silence: Dealing With Sexual Abuse in Our Churches [*Affiliate link] (Ambassador International: 2015). The new book is entitled Unholy Charade: Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church. Its message will be the same as A Cry for Justice: How the Evil of Abuse Hides in Your Church [Affiliate link] (2012) but it will be a new book written in the light of our past three years experience with abuse victims, abusers and readers of our blog here at ACFJ.
I am asking abuse victims/survivors like yourself if you would be willing to send me a short first-person account, 350 words or less, fitting under one of the following headings, from your own story / experience of abuse. This will make the book much more powerful and “real,” giving us some short and powerful vignettes that we could scatter throughout the book. In addition I am hoping this will be a way for abuse victims and survivors to be a vital part of this project in exposing the wicked abuser, confronting churches and Christians who enable them, and encouraging other victims. We will be telling at least a part of YOUR story. I will use as many of your accounts as I can, and you can write on one or more of the topics below.
If you decide to submit an account I would ask that you please include the statement “You have my permission to publish this account” as part of your account, and for legal reasons of granting permission to publish the account, I will need your real name. However, if your account is used in the book you may remain anonymous and your real name will remain private in my document files. Just let me know when you submit your account how you want to be identified. Also, please realize that if your account is used it may be an edited version of what you submit to me.
Finally, you may email your account to me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Please do not submit any accounts in the comment section of this post. It is important that accounts come to me via this email address so they do not clutter up the comment section and because we do not want real names exposed on a public blog.
To summarize — if you want to submit an account(s), please:
1) limit the account to 350 words or less.
2) include in your account the statement, “You have my permission to publish this account.”
3) include your real name, but then indicate if you want your real name attached to your account or if you want to remain anonymous.
4) email the account to me at email@example.com.
Many Blessings in Christ,
Headings – (feel free to add your own if you don’t see it listed here)
- playing the victim
- morphing the victim’s words
- creating chaos
- messing with her mind
- changing the rules
- telling other people what they ought to do
- master of the bedroom
- distorting reality or rewriting history
- double standard
- acting like a child
- lack of empathy
- seeks pity
- unusually compelling charm
- above the law
- how he acts in the cycle of abuse (normal phase, setup, abuse, pity and excuses)
- how your pastor/church responded when you asked them for help.
- Working to gain allies
- Using (mis-using) Scripture against you
- Write on your own topic if we haven’t listed it