UPDATE Sept 2021: I have come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches. He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let alone asked for their forgiveness.
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“You know, we [abuse victims] make people that are having a wonderful, “no worries” life, uncomfortable.” (Teresa, abuse survivor.)
(James 1:27 ESVUK) Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.
For some reason, the Apostle James was faced with an infestation of false religion parading as Christianity. It was faith without works. Now, we all as Christians should know that the righteousness by which we are righteous before God is not of our own creation. We do not work our way into heaven. Oh, we are indeed made righteous before God by works, but those works are not ours. They are the works of the Lord Jesus Christ in our behalf. He obeyed God’s Law perfectly. He took our sin upon Himself on the cross. So it is an “alien” righteousness, not of our own making, that is credited to our account when we come to genuine faith in Christ as our only Lord and Savior.
However, where there is authentic faith, wherever a heart has been re-made by Christ, there will also be the fruit of good works. We can’t boast about those even, they are God’s creation (Ephesians 2:8-10). But they will be there. Christians love one another with the love of Christ. James says that if a man claims to have faith (claims to be a Christian) but his life is devoid of works, he is liar. That man’s faith is a dead faith. Counterfeit. We are “justified” by our works in that our works, the fruit of the Holy Spirit, justify that our claim to faith in Christ is genuine.
The evil of abuse brings much of this into clarity. First, the abuser who claims to be a Christian is exposed by his wicked ways. He is not a Christian. A person cannot be an abuser by nature and be a Christian. It is impossible. Second, the existence of abuse exposes whether or not we are Christians. By “we”, I mean the church. Other people who profess to be Christians….James says that pure, undefiled religion is characterized by visiting orphans and widows in their affliction (and by not being conformed to this evil world).
As Teresa’s quote (above) so accurately notes, victims of abuse make comfortable people uncomfortable. Here comes this mother and her children. They have, well, problems. Big problems. The car is broken down and no one to fix it. The kids often seem to have relational problems. Mom is stressed. Mom isn’t fun to talk to because her children and the threats of her abuser are always on her mind. She is in need. In other words, what you’ve got right in front of you is a widow and orphans. And if you step in to help her, it is going to cost you. Big time. Financially. Emotionally. You might get into some danger because her abuser just ain’t gonna like it at all. You might be accused of “breaking up a marriage” if you don’t try to “talk her into going back to the guy and trying harder”. She rocks your comfy boat. And most people, even most professing Christians, would rather see her go find another church.
I bet the Jewish man who was beaten and robbed was really glad that the Good Samaritan came along. That Samaritan was radical. He took radical action. He stopped what he was doing and put his plans and comfort on hold. He put his money where is mouth was. He loved that Jew and took care of him over the long haul.
The first two religious types that came by, well, they just couldn’t be bothered. “It’s a tough world out there, you know, but we can’t be expected to fix everything. Why, if you worry about all of that stuff, you will go crazy.”
Jesus doesn’t expect us to worry about and fix “all” of that stuff. But He does expect us — He commands us — to worry about and do what we can to fix the plight of the widow and orphan He places in our path. He makes us uncomfortable. And He requires us to take action.
(James 2:14-17 ESV) (14) What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? (15) If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, (16) and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that? (17) So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.
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A Cry For Justice 
Nicely put, Jeff, and very true! We all tend to cling to comfort zones….but the cross is not comfortable….
When I was fresh out of the abuse (and for me that means the first several years I was out, as the turbulence didn’t even start to subside ’til several years afterwards) I used to feel positively offended and inwardly indignant about the women’s meetings at my church. They met for twee presentations of a woman’s craft-work. Or they taught each other how to make greeting cards. Or they had lavish morning teas and Bible-study-lite. Or they had elaborate dinners. But never did they volunteer to get to know about my grinding anguish or my daily troubles trying to hang on to the ordinary threads of life while facing post-separation abuse. Once I cried in church and a couple of them came and put arms around me. But that didn’t mean they wanted to hear much about the sordid, messy, complicated convolutions of how my ex was still managing to make my life a misery and a minefield.
That indignation. I never told them directly. (Well I did tell one whom I learned to trust, many years later.) But I reckon it showed on my face. And I reckon they thought I was often hostile, unkind, impolite and unfriendly. It still seethes, often, but I’ve learned to channel it into constructive stuff like writing and supporting other survivors.
Thank you for sharing, Barbara.
Pastor Jeff wrote:
I need the Holy Spirit to lead me, so I don’t end up tilting at windmills.
And there are many, many windmills.