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1. Sexual abuse in adult relationships.
2. Pedophilia and child molestation.
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Sexual abuse in adult to adult relationships
1 Corinthians 7:14 Whose body is trump?
Phil Monroe, Christian Psychologist and biblical counselor, refutes the argument that according to 1 Corinthians 7:14, women must submit to their husband’s sexual requests.
Abuse, Neglect and Pornography as Grounds for Divorce
Brian Sayers, The Journal of Biblical Soul Care, Fall 2021, volume 5, number 1. (Internet Archive link to download the paper, in case The Master’s University alters their link.)
ACFJ blog post by Barbara Roberts
Do Men need Sex? Wants vs. needs and the making of weak men
by Dr. Phil Monroe, Christian Psychologist and biblical counselor.
This website is for professionals who encounter women who have experienced the crime of intimate partner sexual violence. It contains knowledge useful for doctors, counsellors, police, social workers, domestic violence advocates, sexual assault works, and others.
Marital Rape: Is it Even a Possibility in Christian Marriage?
This post at Spiritual Sounding Board exposes and rebuts the wicked thinking of a man who claims that martial rape cannot happen in a Christian marriage because the wife gave permanent consent to sexual intercourse with her husband when she took her marriage vows.
The myth of women’s false accusations of domestic violence and rape and misuse of protection orders
Fact sheet by xyonline.net, also available in PDF. Summary from the fact sheet:
Myth:
Women routinely make up allegations of domestic violence and rape, including to gain advantage in family law cases. And women use protection orders to remove men from their homes or deny contact with children.
Facts:
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- Rates of false accusations of rape are very low.
- The risk of domestic violence increases at the time of separation.
- Most allegations of domestic violence in the context of family law proceedings are made in good faith and with support and evidence for their claims.
- Women living with domestic violence often do not take out protection orders and do so only as a last resort.
- Protection orders provide an effective means of reducing women’s vulnerability to violence.
Neurobiology of Trauma & Sexual Assault
A video by Jim Hopper, Ph.D., July 2015. From the YouTube description: 110-minute version (don’t worry, it’s very engaging!) of Dr. Hopper’s most popular and high-impact training for investigators, prosecutors, higher ed administrators, etc. More at Jim Hopper: Sexual Assault & the Brain.
Protection Orders: Do they work? Who violates them the most?
A review of research regarding civil court orders of protective. Protection Orders are a key resource now available in every state in the US as a potential legal response to domestic violence. While available in all states, the types of protections offered, legal requirements, and procedures vary from state-to-state. (This review is by the University of Kentucky in the USA, so it’s findings will be more applicable to the USA than other countries.)
Protective Behaviors for Children
An ACFJ post that might answer some questions from mothers who are about to have to provide their abuser with unsupervised access to their children, and the mothers know the abuser has been sexually grooming or outright sexually abusing the children.
Sexist humour and rape jokes: Five key points
Sexist jokes often are dismissed or excused as harmless fun. Yet they have real, negative effects in the world. They are linked to sexist and violent behaviour, they worsen gender inequalities, and they increase tolerance for violence against women.
The Christian Patriarchy Movement’s Dark Secret of Wife Spanking
Exposes and critiques the practices of ‘Domestic Discipline’ so called, which can be a way for abusers to pressure their victims into accepting S&M practices in the bedroom as well as making them submit to physical assault and violence.
This is How Victim-Blaming Logic Would Play out in Everyday Scenarios
3 one-minute videos that each feature an ordinary setting in which one character uses victim-blaming behavior to excuse their problematic actions, similar to the victim-blaming actions in cases of sexual assault and domestic abuse.
Trauma, Sexual Assault and Eating Disorders
from NEDA (National Eating Disorders Association), an article that discussions the correlation between sexual assault and trauma to eating disorders.
by Victoria Police, Australia, is a series of of six podcasts produced by Victoria Police (Australia). It offers a rare glimpse into the real life cases and the people behind them. Over six episodes, you’ll hear from investigators, experts, victim-survivors, bringing their stories out from the shadows and into the light reality.
What about sexual abuse in marriage?
ACFJ FAQ page with a list of related posts
Pedophilia and Child Molestation
These links may be helpful to women who find they are or have been married to pedophiles. They may also be of help to those who are dealing with child molestation.
This study found that one in ten Australian men have committed a child sex offence, and one in six men are attracted to children. From the Twitter thread by Michael Salter, November 24, 2023, formatted to fit the ACFJ blog:
We’ve had some questions about our child sexual abuse perpetration prevalence survey, which found that one in ten Aust men have committed a child sex offence, and one in six men are attracted to children. The prevalence and impact of child maltreatment in Australia: Findings from the Australian Child Maltreatment Study [Internet Archive link]
We used 18 as the age of consent across all offences, although consent varies in Australia between 16 – 17. It is 18 for many child sex offences (ie child sexual abuse material, child sexual exploitation). Some have suggested that this inflated our findings. Why did we use 18 as the age of consent? Although our report focused on the Oz data, this is a multi-jurisdictional study that surveyed men in Oz, UK and USA. The age of consent varies up to 18 across the three countries.
We wanted comparative data so, rather than ask different questions in different countries, we standardised the questions with 18 as the age of consent across all offences. It is reasonable to question whether a lot of men are reporting consensual relations ie 19 yo [years old] and a 17 yo [years old]. However, 70% of men who reported sexual contact with children indicated online offending or sexual interest in children. The remainder indicated that they were friends with people they knew were sexually abusing children (we asked this) or had other risk indicators. There were only a couple of men in the sample who indicated sexual contact with children who had no other risk indicator. And the contact offending sample skewed much older — five times more likely to be 65 and above.
An alternative explanation that has been put to me is that elderly men are much more likely to report sex at 19 with a 17 yo [year old], which is a novel explanation with no empirical evidence that I’m aware of, and does not fit our data. In short, we are confident in our offending findings.
The distinction between sexual interest in prepubescent children and teenagers is important. We specifically asked youngest age of attraction so we can disaggregate this data, and we will be publishing more detailed analysis over the next 12 months. We have no fewer than nine papers in the drafting process based on this study. The comparative findings between the three countries allow us to identify the social determinants of child sexual abuse, in what we believe will make a significant contribution to primary prevention.
Brenda Elysium shares her story of being married for over three decades to a man who had a secret identity – that of a pedophile. She shares some of the details of her life in order to help others who are isolated by the secrecy inherent in living with an individual with a sexual compulsion or addition.
Powerful story from eldest daughter of The Willis Clan. “As far back as I can remember, I was sexually abused by my father…”
Jimmy Hinton is a child protection advocate, a pastor, a husband and a father. In 2011, Jimmy’s life was turned upside down when a victim disclosed to him that she had been sexually abused by the former pastor – Jimmy’s father. Jimmy and his mother Clara reported his father to the police. John Hinton is currently serving a 30-60 year prison sentence for sex crimes against children and won’t be eligible for parole for 30 years.
Since then Jimmy has worked tirelessly to understand the mind and motives of pedophiles so that we can better protect children from them. His site is dedicated to his musing on abuse, God, and the journey of healing for survivors.
Jimmy Hinton’s podcast on radio show “Restory” with Mary DeMuth
A 50 minute interview where Jimmy tells his story of how he found out about his father and the circumstances leading up to his father’s arrest. In addition Jimmy talks about how most Christians don’t understand what the Bible says about evil. He talks about sin leveling, the role of the pastor and church leadership and how their role is to protect the sheep and they are to report, not investigate, criminal matters.
We have a Jimmy Hinton tag which contains all the posts we have written about Jimmy’s work.
Jimmy and Clara Hinton PODCASTS: The Speaking Out on Sex Abuse Podcast
Episode 204: How the Bible Describes Wolves (and It’s Not Nice) — Spreaker, from iHeart
Episode 204: How the Bible Describes Wolves (and It’s Not Nice) — YouTube
Note: When you’re listening to the podcast, keep in mind that much of the focus of Jimmy and Clara Hinton’s work is on paedophiles in the church, how many Christians are so easily deceived by paedophiles, and how many Christians often don’t understand Scripture.
From the description of the podcast: The Bible describes a class of people who have not, do not, and will not ever change. It’s an impossibility. Their hearts have been so hardened that they have zero desire to change. Jesus says that a bad tree CANNOT produce good fruit. In this episode, we share Scriptures that speak to this. And there are many of them. Wolves are not sheep, plain and simple. When we identify them, the message is universal — avoid them!
Sexual abuse may include inappropriate touching, being forced to have sex or engage in sexual acts, being forced to watch pornography, being prostituted, or having someone expose themselves to a child.
Spiritual Sounding Board items
- Being Married to a Pedophile: A Wife Speaks out and Offers Hope to Other Wives of Pedophiles.
- Personal Story: Wife of Pedophile Shares How Her Husband Manipulated Her from Seeing the Truth
- Open Letter to Editors of Christianity Today from Ex-Wife of Pedophile: “Predators in Our Midst”
- There is a Pedophile in My Family: The Tools I Gave My Children to Protect Them from Harm
A peer support forum for ‘affected partners’ – people who are affected by and concerned about the child abuse material viewed by their partner, husband or family members.
In 2015 PartnerSPEAK partnered with Dr Marg Liddell and Professor S. Caroline Taylor, AM to do research exploring the experiences of and impact on the non-offending partners of people involved with child exploitation material. This published research is the first of its kind worldwide.
Rosie Batty’s discovery of ex-partner’s child porn charges
Rosie Batty, former Australian of the Year and Domestic Violence campaigner, talks of the trauma she experienced when she discovered her ex-partner had been charged with accessing online child abuse material at a library. His child pornography charges are a lesser-known part of Batty’s tragic and well-publicized story.
Three women who discovered their husbands were child sexual abuse offenders.
An article titled “I Discovered My Husband Is A Child Sex Offender. I Stayed With Him.”, by Anna Saunders. This the article does not recommend that a wife stay with her husband when she discovers her husband is a child sexual abuse offender. One of these women chose to stay, the other two chose to leave.
Founded by David Pittman, a child sexual abuse survivor, this website is for any who suffer from the trauma of childhood sexual abuse. It exists to provide guidance and counseling to those in need, educate any who seek information on how to better protect our children and to expose the sexual predators and their methods.
