Are you walking on eggshells?

ACFJ blog post by Barbara Roberts

Assessing men who present as victims of family violence but who may actually be the primary aggressor (PDF) [Internet Archive link]

Nathan DeGuara draws on the work of the Victims Support Agency and No To Violence in assisting practitioners to assess whether men who are referred – or who present – as victims of intimate partner violence are the victim or the one perpetrating violence. The PDF linked to above is a PDF of the Powerpoint presentation Nathan DeGuara gave at the No To Violence Conference [Internet Archive link] held in Melbourne, Australia, in November of 2012.

For Love or Money

A 7 minute video highlighting the serious and harmful nature of financial abuse. Financial abuse is hard to recognize and it can happen to anyone in any relationship.

Seven Red Flags in a Toxic Christian Dating Relationship

Blog post by Natalie Hoffman at Flying Free. She updated her original post, Deal Breakers: Advice to Unmarried Women (and Daughters), and gave it a new name.

We had listed Deal Breakers: Advice to Unmarried Women (and Daughters) and have updated our old listing to Seven Red Flags in a Toxic Christian Dating Relationship.

Sexist humour and rape jokes: Five key points

by Michael Flood

Sexist jokes often are dismissed or excused as harmless fun. Yet they have real, negative effects in the world. They are linked to sexist and violent behaviour, they worsen gender inequalities, and they increase tolerance for violence against women.

This is How Victim-Blaming Logic Would Play out in Everyday Scenarios

3 one-minute videos that each feature an ordinary setting in which one character uses victim-blaming behavior to excuse their problematic actions, similar to the victim-blaming actions in cases of sexual assault and domestic abuse.

The myth of women’s false accusations of domestic violence and rape and misuse of protection orders

Fact sheet by xyonline.net, also available in PDF. Summary from the fact sheet:

Myth:

Women routinely make up allegations of domestic violence and rape, including to gain advantage in family law cases. And women use protection orders to remove men from their homes or deny contact with children.

Facts:

• The risk of domestic violence increases at the time of separation.
• Most allegations of domestic violence in the context of family law proceedings are made in good faith and with support and evidence for their claims.
• Rates of false accusations of rape are very low.
• Women living with domestic violence often do not take out protection orders and do so only as a last resort.
• Protection orders provide an effective means of reducing women’s vulnerability to violence.

What are red flags that someone might potentially be an abuser?

ACFJ FAQ page with a list of related posts