The purpose of this site is to reduce harm and lessen suffering by bringing clarity to the confusing area of intimate partner violence. CAVEAT: the author of this site, Michael Samsel, regards trauma bonding as a credible idea, recommends Patrick Carnes’ book The Betrayal Bond, and some of his articles take for granted that trauma bonding happens. We believe that the concept of trauma bonding needs to be discarded — see The Myth of “Stockholm Syndrome” and other labels which are used to discredit and pathologize victims of abuse.
Counseling helpline, information and support for family violence and sexual assault — for victims, family & friends, workers & professionals
Since the early 1980s, Duluth—a small community in northern Minnesota—has been an innovator of ways to hold batterers accountable and keep victims safe. The “Duluth Model” is an ever evolving way of thinking about how a community works together to end domestic violence. (From What is the Duluth Model)
Power and Control Wheel
In 1984, staff at the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project (DAIP) began developing curricula for groups for men who batter and victims of domestic violence. We wanted a way to describe battering for victims, offenders, practitioners in the criminal justice system and the general public. Over several months, we convened focus groups of women who had been battered. We listened to heart-wrenching stories of violence, terror and survival. After listening to these stories and asking questions, we documented the most common abusive behaviors or tactics that were used against these women. The tactics chosen for the wheel were those that were most universally experienced by battered women. (From Understanding the Power and Control Wheel)
Wheel Gallery The Wheel Gallery includes the original wheels developed by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs (DAIP), as well as images that have undergone DAIP’s formal adaptation approval process.
Family Violence — Department of Justice, Canada
Government of Canada website, with a focus on family violence. From the webpage: Family violence is considered to be any form of abuse, mistreatment or neglect that a child or adult experiences from a family member, or from someone with whom they have an intimate relationship. The following pages provide information about family violence, the laws relating to family violence and the kind of help that is available to someone experiencing family violence.
International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies: Hot Peach Pages
Lutheran Church Missouri Synod
Domestic Abuse Project resources by Lutheran Church Missouri Synod (LCMS) are available online. Resources include materials for victims, pastors, and a four page theological position paper.
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
From the About Us page: Our mission is to lead, mobilize and raise our voices to support efforts that demand a change of conditions that lead to domestic violence such as patriarchy, privilege, racism, sexism, and classism. We are dedicated to supporting survivors and holding offenders accountable and supporting advocates.
National Domestic Violence Hotline (U.S.A)
Operating around the clock, seven days a week, confidential and free of cost, the National Domestic Violence Hotline provides lifesaving tools and immediate support to enable victims to find safety and live lives free of abuse. 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
RAINN – Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network
From the About page: RAINN’S mission – RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) is the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization. RAINN created and operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline (800.656.HOPE, online.rainn.org y rainn.org/es) in partnership with more than 1,000 local sexual assault service providers across the country and operates the DoD Safe Helpline for the Department of Defense. RAINN also carries out programs to prevent sexual violence, help survivors, and ensure that perpetrators are brought to justice.
This RAVE website link provides a starting point to access information regarding North American Domestic Violence Shelter Locations, Coalition Maps, and U.S. National Hotlines.
Victim Services – Correctional Service, Canada
Government of Canada website, with a focus on the services provided to victims of federal offenders.
What’s OK At Home (WOAH) – Domestic Violence Resource Centre (DVRCV)
DVRCV is a statewide service in Melbourne, Victoria that aims to prevent family violence and promote respectful relationships.
DVRCV has created ‘What’s OK at Home” (WOAH), an one-of-a-kind online platform with exercises, stories and information that supports children and young people aged 10-17 to recognize family violence and provides practical guidance to support their safety, health and emotional wellbeing.
WOAH also has a section for adults who want to help a child or young person in a family violence situation, with information about what to do, where to get help, the law, and guidance on how you can make a difference in a young person’s life.
Peak agency for domestic violence agencies in the UK
WomensLaw.org — a project of the National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV)
WomensLaw is an extensive website launched to provide legal information and resources for survivors of domestic violence. They also provide a confidential Email Hotline to offer direct support to survivors, their advocates, friends and family members. Additional they offer safety tips, information on recognizing abuse, and legal information by each USA state. See the tabs at the top of the website to familiarize yourself with all their resources.
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