A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

ACFJ is Changing its Publishing Schedule

UPDATE  Sept 2021:  Barbara Roberts has come to believe that Jeff Crippen does not practise what he preaches.  He vilely persecuted an abuse victim and spiritually abused many other people in the Tillamook congregation. Go here to read the evidence. Jeff has not gone to the people that he spiritually and emotionally abused. He has not apologised to them, let alone asked for their forgiveness.


We have decided to change our publishing schedule to only one post per week. We think one post per week will give enough for our readers to chew on and it will free Jeff and Barb up to work on other projects such as writing books.

The new schedule will start next Monday (22 May, USA time).

We would like to take this opportunity to ask our readers to help us in the following ways:

Disidentify your comments if your safety could be at risk. 

  • If you could be in danger from your abuser or his allies, try your best to not give overly-identifying info in your comment or your screen name.
  • We are asking everyone who comments on the blog to read our New Users’ Info page. We have re-written and simplified it, so even if you’ve read it before please read it again.
  • If you could be in danger from your abuser or your abuser’s allies and you comment on the blog, it is essential that you read that page because it gives tips on how to disidentify your comment and how to fill in the comment form safely.
  • The more you can take responsibility for disidentifying your comments, the less work we have to do on the back end of the blog.

Please don’t write really long comments. And use paragraph breaks.

  • If you’re a regular commenter, please don’t submit comments that are really long.
  • If your comment is of moderate length, please use double-line paragraph breaks in the text. This makes a comment much easier to read and much easier for us to moderate. Hit the ‘return’ key twice to create a paragraph break in the text of your comment.
  • WordPress is different from Facebook. To submit your comment on Facebook you hit the return key. On WordPress, hitting the return key doesn’t submit your comment, it only creates a single-line paragraph break. But double-line para breaks are preferable on WordPress because they are less strain on the eyes.

Please don’t give links or suggest resources in your comment, unless…

  • Please do not give links or recommend a resource unless it has already been recommended in our Resources or elsewhere on this blog.
  • If you want to recommend a resource, a book or a website, please do so by emailing Barbara at barbara@notunderbondage.  This is the only way we will consider such recommendations.

To help reduce our burden of moderating comments, we have also decided to our remove our Prayer Requests page.


  1. Misti

    I was wondering when y’all were going to do this. Taking care of yourselves is good. 🙂 (hug)

  2. anonymous

    Very exciting…and we can look forward to more of your books. God bless you!

  3. Sister

    I’m very sorry to hear this. It’s your prerogative & your time & I don’t at all blame you for wanting more free time to work on other projects. Nonetheless, I think it will be a big loss to the readers / commenters who get education, validation, & community here not only from your posts, but perhaps even more so from the comments / dialogue inspired by your posts. I hate to see this ministry diminish. I’ve read your books, found them helpful & recommended them to others, but if I as a reader had a choice of new books or new blog posts, I would prefer new blog posts complete with commenters’ comments. I would also prefer to see a canned disclaimer pasted into a comment rather than restricting commenters from providing links or books they recommend. Again, I realize it has to be very time consuming & of course it is your prerogative how you want to spend your time. I don’t begrudge you that, but I want to recognize it for what it is: a loss. The oasis has been slowly drying up & the tone comes across to me as more & more harsh / critical of commenters. On the flip side, maybe the tone is indicative of burnout from all the effort / energy expended in keeping the blog going over the last 5 years.

    • Sister

      Wow. When I wrote my comment I hadn’t even noticed that you removed your prayer requests. Sad.

    • He Delights in Me

      Yes, Sister, I agree. I would much rather have the blog and community more than more books. Even though those are helpful and I have purchased them, too, and recommended them to pastors. I will feel a great loss.

    • Seeing the Light

      I, too, agree. I am so grateful and completely understand anyone needing to pull back, especially with as much as ACFJ has done and given. My heart did sink, though, when I read this. That sense of aloneness that was in part ameliorated by ACFJ was stimulated when I read this today, and I feel the loss keenly. The hardest part will be the prayer requests section. I don’t really have many people in my life, except those I have connected to through blogs, and the ACFJ prayer request page was not just one of the few sources of prayer itself, but the encouragement that came from others when they would comment when they agreed to pray. I do understand the need, however, and I am grateful that we had what we had for as long as we had it. May God bless everyone here, commenters and moderators alike.

      • Seeking Freedom

        I agree, too. Coming here almost daily, reading the blog posts, but most especially the comments, has helped me immensely the last several years. The sense of community, knowing that I was not alone in this, has been so important. This is a loss.

  4. He Delights in Me

    I appreciate all you have done, the many posts, fielding comments, providing a much-needed link between dv and the church. I really feel sad about less-often posts. I see your site and all who comment as sisters in this struggle. A community that has meant so very much to me over the past two years as I am in the midst of gaining clarity. This is a unique site. I hope one day this community can grow again. Grateful for you!!

  5. KayE

    I think this is a great idea. I don’t see it as a loss at all, but rather a step forward. There is such a tremendous wealth of information and discussion already posted on this blog and it’s well worth the effort going back through old posts. I strongly believe that if the same things are repeated too often it can actually result in a message becoming weaker and more confusing. There are other ways of providing support and community which don’t rely so heavily on the input of a few people sacrificing vast amounts of unpaid time as moderators. Maybe this a good opportunity for someone else out there to take on such a ministry?
    In any case three cheers for all the team at ACFJ and can’t wait to see those books!

  6. Bitter But Getting Better

    I completely understand the need for you to do this. The time, energy, heartache, wisdom and love you all have shown this group of victims is overwhelming. Thank you for all of the treasures this site has given us. I for one can honestly tell you that without you I would NEVER have left Egypt. God bless you and all your efforts and ACFJ.

  7. MarkQ

    Completely agree with this change. I really appreciate the posts, but I find myself skimming or skipping them altogether when I get behind. Having a known cadence will make it easier to spend the time to read, understand and intelligently comment, plus I think it will raise the quality of the posts when there is that much time to revise.

  8. standsfortruth

    Thank you for continuing to provide truth on this site…
    This is a place where we can still come together, share truth, expose evil, and support each other.

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