A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Housekeeping: Changing Comment Evaluation

Dear Beloved Readers,

You might notice that we have changed the way we “do” comments. In the past, a comment from a new reader first had to be approved by the administrators (and now, the editor — yours truly). Once the new reader’s comment was approved, the new reader was then free to post comments without any sort of approval on our part. Unfortunately, with a growing audience, some rather disturbing comments have “snuck in” under the radar, despite the fact that Barb, Jeff C and myself practically live on this blog. As a result, there have been some who have been hurt and left feeling unsafe on our watch. We, as a team, have decided to monitor the comments more closely. EVERY comment will now be approved by our team. It is priority that our readers find a safe haven here on this blog. We all know what it is like to feel unsafe.

This is the last place we wish for you to feel unsafe.

All that being said, we will be able to approve of comments quickly (again, we live on this blog), and we pledge to not edit or change anything within the comments without first obtaining permission. Don’t let this throw you off. We are constantly thinking about and discussing ways to improve this ministry.

We hope you all know how valuable you are to us and how much we desire to minister to every soul who comes across our blog. Thank you for bearing with us as we learn and grow.

Merry Christmas, dear readers!




  1. We really hope every one of our trusted readers and contributors will understand. I know the change could make you feel a little triggered – many survivors have felt under suspicion from pastors and churches when they’ve complained about (disclosed) their spouse’s abuse. And if it seems like you are ‘under suspicion’ when you submit a comment because that comment now needs to be moderated, it could trigger those memories of hard-hearted churches.
    Please understand that our trusted and much loved readers here – and I think of you as my family, my dear sisters and brothers – are not the ones we have to be careful of. It’s others who we feel we have to keep a bit of a boundary with. We want this blog to stay a very supportive and educational place for anyone who truly wants education and/or support in dealing with domestic abuse.

    Oh, and Megan’s pledge about how we won’t change anything in your comments without your permission. That’s true, but there are the odd exceptions. I confess that sometimes I have gone in and fixed up a spelling or syntax mistake, but only when the mistake causes a major distraction while the reader is making sense of the meaning. Whether our readers spell well or not so well doesn’t bother me (in fact, I enjoy the eccentric spelling – it’s cool!) but I do want to help our readers make sense of what is written. And I only do such edits when I am sure of the writer’s intended meaning. I call it ironing out road bumps in the prose. If anyone is not okay with this, just let me know, either in the post thread or by email.

  2. Hey, and I even have to approve my own comments, and I’m one of the administrators! So you are not alone. We’re all in the same boat.

  3. joepote01

    Have a very blessed Christmas, Megan, Barbara, Jeff C, and Jeff S!

    We appreciate all that you do!

  4. Barnabasintraining

    I have no complaint with that. Thank you for being so vigilant. Comment moderation takes a lot of time and effort and you all do so much for the readers here. We appreciate you! 🙂

    And no I am not sucking up. 😉

    • Memphis Rayne

      I for one am relieved lol I know I can deliver a fiesty rebuttle, and ABOVE ALL I am the worst speller on the planet!!!! So i apreciate the help! Thank you all so much for bringing me personally to a place of healing, and letting me be apart. I am not against “sucking up”” either lol

      Merry Christmas!!!! This year our first one EVER!!!!! yay!!!

      • MeganC

        Haha! We LOVE you, Memphis. 🙂

      • Still scared( but getting angry)

        Yes, me too!! My spelling is awful!! And add to it I often comment on little sleep when I come back from seeing a patient so my typing …well, let’s just say this change doesn’t bother me and only encourages me that my typing and spelling might look better. I am sorry for the extra work for the admin’s .

      • Hey SS, I like your name change! You go, girl!

      • Jeff Crippen

        Memphis – feisty? You? Hadn’t noticed:):) Hey, feisty or fiesty? Now I have to go look it up. i before e except after….something.

  5. mak1228

    I love this blog and I thank you for putting words to my thoughts, views and feelings!

    • Jeff Crippen

      You are welcome, mak. Great to have you here!

  6. Diane

    Merry Christmas Barbara, Megan, Jeff C and Jeff S and to all the A Cry For Justice readers and commenters. May God continue to bless the work you do here! I have learned so much from you. And–if anything I have posted in a comment here was offensive to anyone– please forgive me. I will be grateful for any spelling corrections on my comments as well! Thanks!

    • Jeff Crippen

      Thanks Diane. Merry Christmas to you as well. I think you have only offended the bad guys, which is a very good thing:)

    • Barnabasintraining

      Merry Christmas to you too Diane!

      And merry Christmas to all the ACFJ gang, readers, commenters, admins, and all.

      May God bless you all in Christ. 🙂

  7. Wisdomchaser

    Merry Christmas all. I think this is a good idea. Sometimes I open my mouth (or move my fingers) and out comes really stooopid garbage.

  8. Merry Christmas to all of you. It’s boxing day here and I’m recovering nicely from the big day. Thank you for all your good wishes and funny comments (funny haha not funny peculiar). My thoughts are especially with those of you who may be facing stressful visitation or family encounters at this time, or are feeling lonely. bless you all.

  9. Bethany

    I will have to say honestly it drives me crazy! But I know that you are doing it for our protection and not out of a controlling spirit, and you guys are fast to approve posts. So I will get used to it and am sure that in a few weeks I won’t even notice it 🙂

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