A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Monthly Archives: November, 2015

“Christian” Enabling of the Abuser Increases His Attacks on the Victim

Recently an abuse survivor made a very insightful comment. She said that she could always tell when her abuser (a professing Christian) was receiving support from a Christian. How? He stepped up the intensity of his abuse. She said that while non-Christian support for him would certainly encourage him in his wickedness, her suffering at …

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These people have turned the world upside down!

Paul and Silas in Thessalonica Now when they had passed through Amphipolis and Apollonia, they came to Thessalonica, where there was a synagogue of the Jews. And Paul went in, as was his custom, and on three Sabbath days he reasoned with them from the Scriptures, explaining and proving that it was necessary for the …

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Resisting slanderous misrepresentations of our work, like the claim that we say ‘you can label anyone you don’t like as an abuser’.

Recently a pastor asserted on his blog* that Jeff Crippen basically teaches that we can take anyone we don’t like, label them as an abuser, and then shun them and run them out of the church without due process or possibility of forgiveness. Let it be know to all and sundry that Jeff Crippen does not say we …

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Thursday Thought — Victims invariably resist violence and other forms of abuse

Alongside each history of violence there runs a parallel history of prudent, determined, and often creative resistance. The manner in which victims resist depends on the unique combination of dangers and opportunities present in their particular circumstances. Victims typically take into account that perpetrators will become even more violent for any act of defiance. Consequently, …

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The ‘just war’ theory: how it relates to divorcing an abuser

Proponents of the ‘just war’ theory believe that aggression against others can be justified under certain conditions. Cicero was the first to argue for such an approach, but St. Augustine (AD 354-430) set forth its classic formulation:  Just cause —a defensive war, fought only to resist aggression.  Just intent—fought to secure justice, not for revenge, …

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How Miles Davis misrepresented his assault of his wife Frances: a case study in the language of abusers

Here is the account which jazz musician Miles Davis gives of the first time he assaulted his wife, Frances. I loved Frances so much that for the first time in my life I found myself jealous. I remember I hit her once when she came home and told me some shit about Quincy Jones being handsome. …

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