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Monthly Archives: November, 2012

Why Are Pastors Afraid to Permit Divorce for Abuse?

(Joh 9:21-23 ESV)  21 But how he now sees we do not know, nor do we know who opened his eyes. Ask him; he is of age. He will speak for himself.”  22 (His parents said these things because they feared the Jews, for the Jews had already agreed that if anyone should confess Jesus …

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I was never a warrior. I was sweet to everyone, responsive to others who seemed happy with me and was pretty sure I lived a charmed life. My parents always told me that I was “too trusting” and, goodness, they were right. My father was protective to the best of his ability. I am sure …

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The Fallacy of Making Our Healing Dependent On Those Who Hurt Us

I learned a tough lesson as I went through my divorce: “Don’t make your healing dependent on the one who hurt you”. Even after I “learned” this truth, unwittingly I fell into the trap over and over again. We can all easily fall prey to this mindset, but as long as we are there we …

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The Old Man Fallacy as an Excuse for Abuse in Independent Fundamental Baptist Theology

The following lines are taken from the doctrinal statement that appears at the Sword of the Lord website.  Sword of the Lord is a publication that has been around for decades, promoting KJV only, separatist, soul-winning fundamentalism.  In the same statement, the Sword of the Lord insists that: …the Bible, the Scriptures of the Old …

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Critique of CBMW’s Statement on Abuse

I published this critique in 2010 on my solo website notunderbondage.com.  It seems timely to republish it here on A Cry for Justice. It relates to Jeff Crippen’s recent post about Wayne Grudem, Mary Kassian and CBMW and I hope re-publication will lead to wider circulation of the critique. The ignorance, injustice and bad teaching …

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The Backlash of Boundary Setting

You have heard us talk a LOT about boundaries. I have recently set them, myself, daily learning the subtle art of boundary setting — from minor “I would rather not talk about that” boundary setting all the way to “warrior” boundary setting. I was not prepared for the fall-out last year when I set the …

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